Making Room for Love

To truly allow yourself to love, you need to allow yourself the possibility at times, that you don’t.

That’s the irony with most of our relationships with
everyone and everything.
Why are we so afraid to admit that we may not love a person or love doing something or even love being a certain way, that we box ourselves into a place where freedom to choose no longer seems like a choice? For whatever the reason, under certain circumstances, we’ve deemed it socially unacceptable to admit to not loving someone or something. Maybe because we fear losing that someone or something forever,that we'll look bad, be judged or hurt someone… but whatever the reason, not letting ourselves feel something is the first step down a slippery slope, leading to depression and ultimately a life unfulfilled.
When we stop making room for these feelings we start resenting and withdrawing from people we care about because we feel trapped, trapped by feelings we're "not allowed" to have.
For love to be love, for love to thrive, it has to be freely given. You can’t free yourself up to truly love someone if you can’t even ponder the possibility that you don’t.
Where’s the freedom of choice and where are we to go
with our suppressed feelings?
It’s highly implausible that we can be feeling love for our partners, our children or our family 24/7. How many of us allow ourselves to admit that? For most people that have been in a long term relationship, the feeling that maybe they are not in love with their partner, is very frightening and so they conclude that it would be better left alone, unexamined. The problem; what we don’t claim dominates us. Ancient wisdom tells us that whatever is within us that is ignored or disowned rules over us. We must assume responsibility for it if we hope to gain freedom from it.
Here’s the real dope: if you allow yourself to feel it and maybe even say it occasionally, you have then freed up something inside yourself to experience real
love and joy.
I can’t tell you how many times I have done something out of obligation or not let myself acknowledge my true feelings for fear that I may have to then change
my life. Never has this avoidance of feelings ever evolved into something positive. Conversely, letting myself feel all my feelings, no matter how scary or life altering I believe they are, has freed me up to having a life worth living.